When I was in my 20’s I could never envision myself as an ‘older person’. My parents were old, of course, but the future was so far away and undefined. Shoot…it was enough to get through life as a young person without contemplating the distant future.
But now, here I am at 62, a widow after 20 years of marriage to my best friend and soul mate, living in SW Florida, running my Home Staging business and transitioning into a totally online business as a midlife blogger. How did I get here so quickly?
My first marriage ended after 10 years, but I was blessed with two beautiful children who remain a large part of my life. I met my soul mate, Randy, at the age of 40, and we had 20 years of wonderful marriage until the Lord called him home 2 1/2 years ago. Why didn’t we have more time together?
I didn’t plan on being single at 60, so the transition has been minute-to-minute, day-by-day, acclimating myself to living alone again. On the one hand, I’m okay with living alone…don’t need to be surrounded by people…am not into an active social life…I don’t mind my own company.
On the other hand, it has been a huge change to think about doing things as a single woman again, considering the possibility of another man’s company (that’s a tale for another post :), attending church alone, going to social events without my man by my side, having a meal at a restaurant by myself, making significant life and financial decisions without my mate.
Being a single woman, widow or otherwise, over the age of 60, is a whole different ball game in the game of life.
How I Have Adjusted to Life as a Single Woman Over 60
Most importantly, my faith and trust in the Lord has seen me through the last 2 years since I lost my husband. Being suddenly single again is not something that you plan for, so a daily walk with the Lord has kept me moving forward, one step at a time. One day at a time.
* Where does your trust lie?
My local church has been a source of encouragement for me as well. There are many opportunities to become involved with groups of like minded people as well as social opportunities. So far I have not taken that step of joining a group, have not felt it was the right time for me, but I know they are there for me when the time comes.
* Would a church affiliation be a source of inspiration for you?
My work and business are a necessary, and many times a helpful distraction. I own and operate a successful home staging and interior decorating business in SW Florida, which keeps me very, very busy. Even though I’m winding down on the home staging side of the business, I will continue to work with my design clients as I grow my online presence, including this blog. 🙂
It also provides an opportunity to interact with clients, vendors and other folks, which is a healthy necessity for all of us on a regular basis.
* How can your work/volunteer activities keep you involved with people?
Maintaining a healthy diet and paying attention to my body is high on the list of priorities for me as a single woman over 60. It could be tempting to say, “who cares, I’m too old to try and stay slim and watch my figure”. I can’t do that…maybe I’m vain…but I want to look my best, even if it’s just for my own sell being. It’s all part of that ‘stylish over 60‘ philosophy that I advocate!
Being active and exercising regularly is, and always has been, a stress reducer for me, as well as having a positive impact on my health. I try to do something every day…walk, ride, strength training…anything to get the blood flowing. The home staging business is also very physical, and I like that. It helps keep me in shape. Exercise is something you can, and should, do for yourself.
* Have you exercised yet this week?
Cooking for 1 is different than preparing meals for 2 people, and I find myself looking for prepared food options because they’re quicker and simpler, and very tasty! But the extra fat and calories the food often contains can be lethal to the figure, so I try to limit those to once or twice a week. I’m working on eating simpler, cleaner, natural foods that help minimize belly fat (ugh!) and keep me feeling full.
* How do you plan your meals?
My family is always a source of love and encouragement, and I appreciate that every single day. Life is too short to get bogged down in petty family conflicts. For me, it is mostly a phone, email and Skype relationship because they all live in MI. But that’s okay. We stay in touch and support each other regularly.
* Have you talked with a family member this week?
A friend to confide in is priceless, and I am so fortunate to have a long time friend who I can talk to about absolutely anything. She is always there for me, and I’m there for her.
* Do you have a friend to confide in?
I have put some time into pondering what I like to do, now that I am living a single life. What do I want to learn? Where would I like to go? How do I want to spend my free time? One thing I’m doing is learning to speak Spanish. Very slowly, but I’m learning. If you want to know the Spanish interpretation of ‘the dog eats meat’…I’ve got you!
Another new experience for me is this lifestyle blog, Inspire My Style. I never gave a thought to blogging, even though I’ve been involved with online marketing for almost 10 years. Find out more about blogging…maybe it’s the right time for you!
* What would you like to learn?
Advantages of Being Single Over 60
Although I wouldn’t call myself an ‘old dog’, I am kind of set in my ways, being an older woman and all. And there is a certain freedom in making day to day decisions that impact just me.
- I can get up when I want (usually before the birds), go to bed when I want, watch TV or not…and it’s always my choice of programs.
- My home is decorated to my taste.
- I spend my money the way I want.
- I don’t have to please anyone else in the house, just me.
- My house gets dirty when I mess it up…no one else…pretty simple
- My business (home staging) often mingles with my personal life, so I may have some stuff sitting in the house temporarily. There is no one to be bothered by it (although my husband never cared…he welcomed it!)
My philosophy is to enjoy each day whatever happens, know that the Lord is in control, and be grateful in all things. I am a single woman over 60 and looking forward to life’s adventures!