Just because we reach our 60’s and beyond does not automatically mean we’ve “arrived” as far as the self confidence department is concerned. Confidence is not age related; it is acquired when we can see ourselves in a realistic, loving and intentional way. Such are my thoughts as I drink my coffee and reflect this morning.
Some of us are born (or so it seems) with that confidence, but for most of us it is an acquired trait that takes shape when we’re young and develops as we grow into adulthood.
I would love to show my 20 year old self a thing or two now! My decision making skills and perspective on life would have been so much better and so would have some of the results. But, at that time in my life I lacked the confidence, the self awareness, to even know how to go about making decisions like I do today.
It would be nice to have the smooth, firm skin and energy of my younger self, but I would never, ever want to give up what I know today, and what I went through to acquire that knowledge.
5 ways to Increase Our Confidence in Midlife
1 | ACCEPTANCE
…of where you are today, but realizing that you are not finished yet. The wonderful gift called life enables us to keep learning and growing, as long as we have breath in our lungs.
As women over 60, we may have many years ahead of us, for some, quite a few years! So in our minds we need to embrace that, and instead of focusing on how old we are, or what we can’t do, train our minds to look for ways to grow, learn, advance and thrive.
The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidenceBeyonce
2 | UNDERSTANDING
…that while your past has played a part in molding who you are now, it does not define you. Sometimes we can get caught up in our past…the negative experiences, the difficult times, the unfairness of life…and yes, we experienced those times. Can’t take them back.
But we don’t have to stop there. We do not have to be what our past was. We can achieve anything we put our minds to, and as women in midlife we are strong and wise.
Self confidence is the most attractive quality a person can have. How can anyone see how great you are if you can’t see it yourselfunknown
3 | MOTIVATION
…to do whatever it takes to become the healthiest version of you because when you feel great, you are more confident. And that can be easier said than done, my friends.
Sometimes we get so caught up in life…taking care of the aging parents, helping our adult children, watching the grand kids…all of these are essential and for most of us, we look at these times as a privilege.
But we can get lost in there sometimes. A fresh dose of motivation as women in midlife, to be the best we can be, will do wonders to increase our confidence!
Work out because you love your body, not because you hate itKatie Goulet
4 | AWARENESS
…of our feelings and emotions seems like such a simple thing, but it can be all too easy to stuff our true feelings and put on that happy/strong/stoic/patient/other-type-of face. Sometimes we don’t even know that we’re presenting a bit of a facade, it’s become so real to us.
When we are not honest with ourselves about how we feel, it undermines our confidence at a minimum, and can literally make us sick at it’s worst.
Taking a good, hard look at our own feelings, acknowledging them and moving forward will help us be more confident in midlife because we know where we stand emotionally.
It’s time to start treating myself as good as I’ve been treating othersamazingmovement.com
…and excitement for the ‘you’ that is still evolving can give us an attitude of optimism, confidence and even affect our health.
If we wake up each morning with a spirit of gratitude, anticipation and excitement (yes, even excitement) for the day awaiting us, it will show on our face, in our attitude and ultimately, our confidence.
Confidence is the ability to feel beautiful, without needing someone to tell youMandy Hale
That’s what I love about this life: we never stop learning, growing, developing, and evolving, into more complete versions of ourselves.
It’s always going to be me. But a better me. Even when I’m 90.
What do you think about the topic of how to be confident in midlife?