Welcome to The Midlife ToolBox, a very special series of guest posts written by Midlife Bloggers from all over the world. We are unique women, and even though we are all getting older, our perspective, challenges, and ways we see life are definitely unique! I hope you enjoy these wise words and gain some insight from them. I know I will.
Today’s guest is Jeanell Lancaster from Midlife Radiance.
Jeanell is a young midlifer. She shares how she questioned her life at the age of 38, and what she did to create a healthy lifestyle after 40.
Let’s hear from Jeanell:
How to Create a Healthy Lifestyle After 40
I was 38 years old when I asked myself, “Is this all there is to life?” I was pessimistic about the next year, month, week, and day of my life. That’s when I realized that I was not ok. I was not aging well. I was surviving and not thriving. It was time to make some changes that would put me on a better path.
It’s hard to be satisfied with life when you are always stressed out. I had to learn how to manage my negative emotions in a positive way. Drinking a glass of wine was simply putting a band-aid on the problem.
I needed new tools to cope with the stressors in life. Here’s what I did in addition to changing my diet and becoming more active…
I started practicing gratitude and began noticing all of the good things in my life. As a result, I started experiencing more positive emotions.
“If you concentrate on finding whatever is good in every situation, you will discover that your life will suddenly be filled with gratitude, a feeling that nurtures the soul.”Harold S. Kushner
I also learned to be thankful during the tough times. I stopped asking, “Why me?” And started asking, “What is this here to teach me?” What lessons have I not yet learned?
My mind used to be cluttered and noisy. I was always preoccupied with the past and worried about the future. I was focused on every moment but the present one. I missed out on all of the wonderful things that were happening around me.
I learned how to live in the present moment by practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness is simply being fully aware of what is happening around you. I learned to bring my attention into the present moment by focusing on my breath.
“The present moment is filled with joy and happiness. If you are attentive, you will see it.”Thich Nhat Hanh
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Learn New Skills
When was the last time you did something for the first time?
Learning a new skill makes life interesting, keeps your mind sharp, and expands your social circle. Midlife should be an exciting and adventurous time.
Next month, I will be taking bike riding lessons. It’s something that I’ve always wanted to learn. Get out of your comfort zone and challenge yourself to learn a new skill.
“Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.”Henry Ford
There was a time when I didn’t enjoy my own company. I had perfected the art of being a social chameleon, so I was disconnected from my true self. I was an expert at morphing into who I needed to be at the moment.
After my coming-to-Jesus moment, I finally understood that I was always enough. I am enough. And I will always be enough.
At 40, I gave myself permission to be myself.
Before I developed self-awareness, I would ask myself the following questions whenever I felt disconnected from my true self.
1. Why am I feeling this way?
2. Is there any truth to what I’m feeling?
3. What do I need at this moment to stay true to who I am?
Then I took action!
“You are the author of your own life story. You have the leading role and get to determine how you interact with your supporting cast and other characters. Without realizing it, you may have allowed the events in your life to write your story for you rather than taking deliberate action to write it in your own voice. What will it take to love your life story to create the happy endings you desire?”Susan C. Young
Jeanell Lancaster, Founder Midlife Radiance
Jeanell is a 40’ish single mom who strives to inspire middle-aged women to create a life they love.
She provides real and practical advice, life lessons and motivation to her readers, helping them create a healthy lifestyle after 40.
Connect with Jeanell:
- Blog – https://midliferadiance.com/
- Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/midliferadiance
- Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/midliferadiance/
- Twitter – https://twitter.com/MidlifeRadiance
- Pinterest – https://www.pinterest.com/midliferadiance/
Are you interested in submitting a guest post for this series? Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org and include your blog or website URL. We’ll have a chat! Thanks.