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Style is About More Than What You Wear – Defining Your Style

(Last Updated On: October 12, 2020)

I’m not a fashion follower. You won’t see the latest clothing styles in my closet. Spending hours shopping for the perfect outfit would be a painful experience for me (get in, make the purchase, get out, is how I roll).

But, as a woman over 60, I have a clear sense of style about me. Style is about more than what you wear. Defining your style is about your mojo, your ju-ju, your aura…call it what you will…it’s what makes you…you!

Style is about how you carry yourself and the confidence you have. It’s about being okay with life and the choices you’ve made. By the time you’ve lived a half century or more (good grief…that sounds ancient!) life has thrown some curves, there have been high points and low points, family issues and other life-shaping events.

I remember being so concerned about my looks when I was young. It meant everything to fit in with the crowd. My hair was very naturally curly in a generation where straight hair was the required look. We actually ironed our hair to make it straight…gross!

My body shape was curvy in the hips and my friends always looked thinner and better than me. I wished that I could have that straight, small hipped look that other girls had. I wanted to look like anyone other than ME.

That was back in the 60’s. Thank goodness I realized as I grew older and more mature, that my curly hair was unique and my shape was normal, even kind of sexy. My husband loved the curve to my hips and shapely rear 🙂

As I’ve lived through my 20’s, 30’s, 40’s and 50’s, I’ve learned to embrace my shape, size and other God-given traits that are all a part of who I am.

Defining Your Style: Why is it about more than what you wear?

defining your style as a woman over 60

For me, my defining my overall style as a mature woman includes some ‘trademarks’ that are always with me:

My Scent…

…I’ve worn the same perfume, Interlude by Frances Denney, for about 40 years. Nothing else, just Interlude bath and body perfume. I don’t wear too much, just put it on once in the morning and it’s done for the day. (I have difficulty with people whose scent I can smell 10 feet before and after them…way too much for me.)

I’ll be making a huge decision in about 3 months, though, when I run out of my supply of Interlude. I’ve just learned that Frances Denney is no more, so I have to say goodbye to my good friend Interlude unless I want to pay about $300 for an ounce of it on eBay. Not. No, I’ll be searching for a scent that has similar spicey, floral and citrus blend…oh well, that’ll be a topic for another post.

My Hairstyle…

…naturally curly all my life, I’ve had women stop me and tell me how much they love my curls and would give anything to have hair like mine. There was a time I would have gladly given it to them!

But now I appreciate the curls, even though as I’ve gotten older the natural curl has changed and doesn’t look as nice as it did a few years ago. Oh well…add that to the list of changes that occur with the aging process!

I’ve gone back and forth between curly and straight hairstyles for the last 30 years. But no matter the curl level, my hair always ends up in one particular style. It’s my signature hairstyle. Parted on the side, about neck length, with the back a bit shorter than the sides. It’s simple, but it’s a look I always return to.

My natural hair color is a medium to dark brown with red highlights, and as I’ve gotten older the gray has joined the party. I made the decision to go totally natural with the hair color, after years of using an auburn shade of box color.

It was such a huge change, but I love it and will never go back to coloring my hair. Read more about how I went gray in a day

My Makeup…

…not too much. That’s about it. I always wear a foundation with a strong SPF protection, some type of concealer for the under-eye bags, cheek color, eyebrow enhancement (yes, they diminish with age, too), and a bit of mascara. That’s my look.

I don’t think a mature woman with a bunch of dark eyeliner and eye makeup looks better. It’s harsh and can make a woman appear older.

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My Clothes…

…if you take a peek into my closet you won’t be overwhelmed with all the clothing pieces, accessories, and shoes. While it’s not quite as minimal as the image at the top of the page, it’s pretty simple overall.

I’m a jeans or slacks kind of girl, with a comfortable top, tucked in or on the outside. Although I do subscribe to the current style of slimmer style, leg hugging jeans, I would never go out in public in yoga pants or other skin-tight looks, particularly as a woman in her 60’s. Not cool…for me anyway. There are some things better kept loosely covered.

The shoes are most often an open sandal or flip flop. I live in SW Florida where it’s warm and sunny most of the time, and the dress is almost always casual.

As an aside, the way you style your home also speaks to others about your personal taste and choices. There is almost always a correlation between the two! Read more about creating a home interior to love

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My Confidence…

…I believe that most of all, having the confidence of knowing who you are, inside and out, believing in yourself and being comfortable with where you’re at in life is the most significant aspect of your unique style.

Whatever you choose to wear…wear it with confidence.

The hairstyle you choose…wear it proudly.

The face and body God has given you…be grateful for it.

Defining your style as a woman in midlife? You’ve come this far, learned so much, experienced life with its ups and downs, and through it all, you have become the person you are today. It’s true…style is about so much more than what you wear!

Candi Randolph Midlife Blogger

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  • shirley corder

    Good post. I believe we need to stick with our style as we get older, even if no one will see us all day. We will see us! Let’s do it for ourselves. We need to feel good!
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    • Candi Randolph

      Thanks Shirley, I agree!

  • Jill

    Interesting post. You make some great points. If you find something you like then stick with it. Shame about your perfume. HOpe you find something suitable soon. Some of the Jo Malone scents might be worth a sniff!

    • Candi Randolph

      Thanks Jill, I will check out the Jo Malone scents!

  • Lisa

    The best part about my age is having the confidence to be me, and being content with the way I am and who I am. Good luck choosing a new fragrance Candi!

    • Candi Randolph

      I agree! Yes…on the hunt now for a new fragrance and have not found one yet…

  • Lynne

    I agree…we all have our own style and confidence is key!

    • Candi Randolph

      Thanks Lynne, I agree that confidence makes all the difference!

  • Jennifer Jones

    Your post brought back memories for me of always feeling I did t look right when I was younger. Too tall, too heavy. Wrong hairstyle. I just never feel like I fitted in. Now I’m older I don’t have any of that angst. I am who I am. Great post #MLSTL

    • Candi Randolph

      Getting older does have it’s perks! Thanks for sharing

  • Debbie Harris

    Very true! Whatever we wear or do with our hair we should always wear it with confidence. Sometimes it’s easier said than done though and as we get older our confidence can wax and wane. Visiting from #mlstl

    • Candi Randolph

      I agree, Debbie, thanks for visiting!

  • I think that Midlife brings with it a huge dose of self acceptance – we’re not competing any more. I know that I’m happy with who I am – I know what hair style works for me – I throw a bit of random pink or purple in underneath with a couple of foils to brighten myself up – it makes me smile. I know what clothes suit me, I know when to wear makeup and when to not bother. I love the freedom of this age and stage and don’t miss all the self-confidence issues of my younger days (although I do miss my pre-baby tummy!)

    Thanks for linking up with us at #MLSTL and I’ve shared this on my SM xx

    • Candi Randolph

      Thanks so much Leanne! I appreciate the comments and the share.

  • Victoria

    I so enjoyed your post and agree with your thoughts. I remember the days of ironing hair, mine was straight but not straight enough. And I remember curling long hair on frozen oj cans as big rollers. Crazy times our teens.I wish my closet looked as good as the picture above, mine is a mess.

    • Candi Randolph

      Yes, I used those orange juice cans as rollers back in the day! Thank goodness for technology 🙂

  • I love this Candi and couldn’t agree more. I just wish I had not been so critical of myself in younger years or worried so much about what others thought. I suppose life experience brings wisdom and I’m happy with the person I am now at 60. We are so much more than the outer she’ll. do love your hair btw and always wanted curls! So lovely to connect with you and thanks for linking up at #MLSTL. Hope you join us next week. I have a guest series this year called Over 50 & Thriving and would love to have you write a guest post for me. If you are interested please send me a quick email so I can send you more details.

    • Candi Randolph

      Thanks so much for your comments, Sue. I would love to write a guest post for you and will follow up with you via email.

  • Karen Hume

    Hi Candi,
    I so appreciate you talking about style as being the core of who we are, rather than the external trappings. It’s a refreshing change.
    As for the hairstyle thing, I fired my hairdresser (gently) a couple of months ago, determined to let my hair grow from its short cut to at least medium length so that a new hairdresser could look at me with new eyes and maybe come up with a new style.
    It has grown – to the point where I am subconsciously ‘cutting’ it with my fingers as scissors. That’s always a sign that a professional cut is in my future. And probably that I will be returning to my forever style. As you suggest, maybe that’s just the way it’s supposed to be.

    • Candi Randolph

      Thanks, Karen, I hope you find a hairdresser who will look at you with fresh eyes!

  • Cherie

    I am not sure what I will do if they stop making my favorite scent! I have been wearing Eternity by Calvin Klein since 1986. I am always amazed when other woman wear different scents. I tried to wear a different perfume one time, and my grown daughters were very against it. They claimed they wouldn’t be able t o find me in the store if I wasn’t wearing my usual perfume. LOL
    I enjoyed your post.

    • Candi Randolph

      I know what you mean; my ‘scent’ has been so much a part of me that many people identify it with me. But, time’s a changing so they’ll have to get used to my new scent!

  • Jan Wild

    Candi I love every word that you have written. Personal style is such a powerful form of self expression, it tells the world who you are, and what’s the point of pretending to be someone else. I hadn’t thought about perfume as a form of personal style but of course it is. I must have a multiple personality disorder because I change mine up according to mood and occasion 😉 Seriously though I love a spritz of perfume as I walk out the door, it tells me I am worth it and it causes its own little ripple in the outside world. Sharing on Pinterest and subscribing to your blog.

    • Candi Randolph

      Thanks so much for your kind words, Jan. And, I think it’s really great that you spritz according to mood and where you’re going…that’s a fun way to express yourself!

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