There are so many life lessons my mother taught me that influenced me, and many of them have helped me become the person that I am today. When I look back on my childhood and conjure up the memories, my mom is always there. Always.
I was born in the 50’s, went through adolescence and my teen years in the 60’s and 70’s. At that time most moms stayed home and raised the kids. My mom did just that until I was about 13, and that was when my sister went off to college. Mom started working part time to help pay for her education.
Our family was the typical middle class, midwestern family, with Dad, Mom and three kids. Dad worked at an auto plant – we lived in Detroit so everyone worked at an auto plant or in a related industry. We went to church on Sunday, twice, and also on Wednesday. Our faith was a huge part of our life. I’m glad for that.
Both of my parents came from poor immigrant families, so their framework for a family was developed as they raised us kids. We always had what we needed, and even had a pool in the backyard. That was quite the excitement for us!
By far, my memories of childhood, teen years, and adulthood carry with them happy and treasured memories of my family.
When I think about my mom, who is still with me as I write this (she’s 91), several things come to mind. These are the things that I feel most strongly are the life lessons taught by mom to me, and I am so proud to share them with you.
Life Lessons Taught by Mom
Always Trust in the Lord
Our family put faith first. We were not, and still are not, the ‘perfect’ family. We’ve had some tough times, relationship tensions, and other events that affect every family. But above it all, my parents have always placed their trust in the Lord. My mom has never wavered, not once, in her commitment to her faith.
Her faith is almost child like in it’s innocence, and it has always been a source of inspiration for me.
If I need to talk with my mom about something, significant or not, her perspective will always be from a steadfast Christian point of view. That has helped me remain grounded in my faith. I have wandered off the path more than once, but she and my dad have always been there with love and open arms.
Our family has always been my mom’s first concern. No matter the situation, she is our champion and will defend us to the death. Even when we might not be 100% in the right, she is always there for us and will do anything she can for us.
I have a brother and a sister, and although we don’t talk to each other every day, we all talk to my mom daily, or pretty close to it. Mom is the core of the communication in the family. She always updates us on what the other siblings are doing, how things are going for them, etc.
There is nothing that gives her more joy and satisfaction than talking with, and spending time with, her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I have a strong sense of family because of my mom’s love and commitment to ours.
Be a Source of Encouragement to Others
My mom is not one to get up in front of a group of people and talk. In fact, she would probably end up in a little heap on the floor if she was put in the spotlight. But, tell her that someone is ill, or sad, or going through a tough time, and she is the first one to pick up the phone and call them with words of encouragement.
We live in a society that relies more and more on non verbal forms of communication. So much texting and emailing! And Mom is a capable texter herself! People get such a kick out of that…a 91 year old woman texting on her phone. But it has a place in her life, particularly for keeping in touch with the family and extended family.
I will always appreciate and remember my mom calling friends, family, church members, extended family and others who needed a word of encouragement. I would do well to make half the effort that she has put forth for many years.
Food Brings us Together as a Family
My mom is Italian, a child of immigrants. If you are familiar with the Italian heritage, you know that everything revolves around food. That is very true…our family was no exception.
Family time around the dinner table with a tasty home cooked meal was a nightly occurrence in our home.
We were with the Italian side of the family for every birthday…I mean every birthday. Holidays were also a time to everyone to be together and, well, eat. Eating is what we did as an extended family. Things got a bit rowdy at times with those Italian tempers flaring, but above all we ate together and celebrated together.
My grandmother (my mom’s mom) would be happiest when we were ALL together, filling our plates with spaghetti, home made sauce and fresh baked bread. So my mom had solid training in that area!
Although we don’t see the extended family like we used to, those memories are still vivid for me. And my mom has always been such wonderful example of hospitality to our family and friends.
She doesn’t have the ability to cook much anymore. My folks recently sold their home and moved to an Independent Living facility. It’s a wonderful place for them to be in the twilight of their lives. If there is cooking to be done, we as a family do it for her and my dad now.
Be Happy, Grateful and Satisfied With What You Have
Of all the life lessons my mother taught me, the most significant is probably this one. Be happy, grateful and satisfied with what you have.
My folks have never been well off, according to typical US society standards. Their savings account and investments have never had many zeros in them. But you know what? They have always had what they needed and more, enjoyed good health for many years, traveled, built and lived in their dream home for over 45 years, and spent many happy times with family. That, my friend is priceless.
So, when I need to be reminded of the joys of being grateful for what I have….now…today…I need only look to my mom, and my dad, to see the perfect picture and example of what that means. And that has indeed shaped my life and influenced who I am today, these life lessons taught by mom.
Update April, 2022:
Dad went to be with the Lord in the summer of 2018. After 72 years of marriage we thought that Mom might not be able to continue her life without her partner and soul mate.
We would not have been surprised if she followed him shortly after his passing. But Mom decided that she wanted to continue living and enjoying her family: the children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren.
She felt that God wanted to use her in her community and that was her purpose for being there. So she has done just that for the last four years. At 95 years old Mom is the sweetest testimony to living a faithful Christian life.
We are blessed to have her with us, and we’re thankful every single day.
Thank you, Mom. I love you.
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42 thoughts on “Life Lessons Taught by Mom That Influenced Who I am Today”
Aww that is sweet. Mothers can be so smart
Yes, they seem to know everything, don’t they?:)
These are such great tips! Literally words to live by. Thanks for sharing your mom with us readers! 💛
This is such a beautiful tribute to your mom! It is also an encouragement to other moms about the value of their life and influence.
Yes, we are influencing our family no matter our age.
Moms are the best, and I love the little lessons we can learn from other generations. I particularly like her tip about being a source of encouragement to others – so important and a great way to build a cohesive society. Thanks for sharing her lessons for living!
Thank you, Jody
Wow, your mom looks great! What amazing genes you have in your family!
Thanks…I hope I have a few of those genes!
Great story about a wonderful mom and family. And a texter too!
She is! It’s pretty cool!
Very touching! It’s a blessing to have mothers in our lives.
This is so sweet and inspirational! Makes me think of all of the things I’ve learned my mother.
Thank you, Caitlyn. Moms are really wise, aren’t they?
What a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing with us.
Thank you Laura!
Mom’s always have the best advice!
Yes, they always seem to know more than us, no matter our age!
Candi, I have enjoyed ALL of your inspiremystyle Posts. They have touched on many areas that have interested me. But, this My Mom’s Gifts to Me…..was almost a spiritual read…..It touched my heart. Thank You, for creating this Website. Dianne, Brighton, MI
Thank you, Dianne!
This is such a beautiful tribute to your Mother! I loved reading your stories, and the foundation that made you who you are. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Jennifer, it was an honor to write this for my mom.
This tribute to your mother is beautiful. She sounds like such a wonderful woman.
Thank you! My mom is a very special person.
I feel so lucky to have a good relationship with my mom, she means the world to me. I wish I took after her more. With her patience, selflessness and her ability to keep her frustrations to herself when life deals her a bad hand. I still hope to grow up to be more like her.
I’m sure you will! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
I’m glad you got to grow up putting your faith first. It is so great to have that as your foundation.
It is…I can’t imagine living any other way.
Thank you for this heartfelt post.
Thank you Amie!
I absolutely love this tribute, it is so incredibly special. Thank you for sharing with us.
Thank you, Channon!
This is a beautiful write up about your mom and how she has influenced you Candi. My dad is from Spain and we always had family dinner around the table every day too, we carried this forward and always had family dinner at the table with our three daugthers as well. You are very fortunate to still have your mom here with you, I lost my mom just last fall. It would have been her birthday last week, that was a hard day for us all but we know she is in a better place and not suffering anymore, so for that we are thankful.
Thank you for sharing, Lisa, it is always difficult to spend a holiday without the honored one present, particularly the first one. I am thankful every day that my mom is with us!
Your mother sounds a wonderful role model for you Candi and she certainly has provided you with some wise lessons. I lost my Mum when she was 63 and I was 30 so I haven’t had her for many years. I miss her so much but she was a wonderful woman who battled cancer and taught me about strength and never giving up. Thank you for sharing your beautiful Mum with us at #MLSTL. Your photos are lovely memories to keep. xx
Thanks, Sue, I’m sorry that you have been without your mom for so long. It sounds like she was a strong and positive influence in your life.
Encouragement and gratitude are two big ones for me – if you want your family to spend time with you, then you need to be positive. I try to be the family cheerleader – criticism doesn’t win you any points – being proactive and celebrating the wins is always the best choice.
Thanks for linking up with us at #MLSTL and I’ve shared this on my SM xx
Thank you Leanne, I always appreciate your comments and shares!
How inspirational is your Mum. I hope she gets to read this too.
Thanks Denyse, my mom has read this and she was really thrilled!